I don't have words.

After one day back at school, Phoebe announced, "I'm a little bit sad, Mommy." When I asked her why, she said, "I don't have words." I asked her if she wanted a hug. She said no and continued sitting with her back to me on the little couch in her room. Finally--after telling me a rambling story about a time when I had been sad and she had tried to give me a toy (which I don't recall ever happening)--she told me, "I think I'm a little girl. But I'm in the big kids' class."